By inheritance
Contrary to popular belief, absent-mindedness is not an established character trait. This is a genetic trait that is passed on from generation to generation. Thus, people predisposed to absent-mindedness are the owners of a mutated DRD2 gene, which affects the transmission of important signals to certain parts of the brain. If the gene is changed, forgetfulness and problems with short-term memory may occur.
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Over time, absent-mindedness, if it really is permanent, can interfere with studies and social life and even harm relationships with people. Absent-minded people may forget what time they agreed to meet, mix up plane flights, get the addresses wrong... Take a closer look at the child, his behavior will tell you whether he is like the hero Marshak.
Signs of absent-mindedness:
- a forgetful person is unable to concentrate on one thing and is constantly distracted from the task assigned to him;
- characterized by daydreaming;
- asks again when you ask him a question;
- often says “I forgot”, “I don’t remember”, “you didn’t say that”;
- is late;
- can wear different mittens or socks, and go outside in slippers.
Do not confuse absent-mindedness with manipulation, when a child covers up his carelessness and laziness with forgetfulness. There is a big difference between the times when children intentionally “forget” and don’t complete important tasks and the times when they actually don’t remember what they were asked to do.
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Consultation for parents “How to overcome absent-mindedness in a child?”
Marina Ustinova
Consultation for parents “How to overcome absent-mindedness in a child?”
Absent-mindedness is a mental state characterized by a lack of attention and concentration. Absent-minded children most often have problems with organization and execution; they cannot or find it difficult to identify the main thing when observing an activity; they are not able to follow a clear order. One of the main reasons absent-mindedness is the result of improper upbringing. If parents from a very early age teach their child to have order, master the skills of discipline, organization, and teach the child to finish what he has started, then this is a firm guarantee that your child will not grow up absent-minded . And vice versa, if parents they “turn a blind eye” the child’s toys and workplace
and disorganization
appear imperceptibly in the child’s behavior And if at preschool age absent-mindedness does not greatly affect the child’s , then at school age these qualities will rapidly begin to affect the child’s . absent-minded schoolchildren to study; they are constantly distracted by their thoughts, dreams, any rustles and sounds, do not listen to the teacher’s explanations, and do not have time to complete all assignments. An absent-minded child quite often finds himself in funny and annoying situations. What to do if you begin to notice the qualities of an absent-minded person in your child ? The most important thing is that in no case do you reproach your preschooler or punish him for sloppiness, forgetfulness, or lack of composure. For a successful result, it is necessary to patiently and systematically train him in correct behavior, teach him to work on his shortcomings. The first thing to start with is strict adherence to the daily routine; it is a well-planned daily regimen that does not allow the child to change the activity or activity according to his mood , it requires focusing attention and will on the work started and bringing it to the end. At the beginning, you will have to constantly remind your child what needs to be done according to the schedule, but after a while, this will become a habit for the child , and he will learn to take tasks and responsibilities responsibly. The next stage is the creation of external conditions, the elimination of all factors that can distract the child . Sometimes parents themselves are to blame for children's absent-mindedness . For example, they make comments to the child that he is constantly distracted from his studies, while they themselves turn on the TV loudly in the next room, listen to music and talk loudly. And at this time, the child in his room is with his parents , and does not complete his task. And for parents not to distract their children from their work, to respect their work, even if sometimes it seems to us that the children’s activities are completely insignificant. You will get the first quick results only if the activities, assignments and tasks are interesting and exciting for the child . If a child likes to take care of pets, flowers, or sculpt from plasticine, then encourage his success by pointing out that if you had not watered the flowers or fed the animals, they would have died, so that the child begins to realize the responsibility of his affairs. Gradually, the child will learn that it is necessary to do not only what is interesting, but also what is necessary for the benefit of the family and himself, that efforts must be made to achieve the goal. But at the same time, children should not be overloaded with activities and assignments. Children best learn knowledge and practice habits through play. For example, take a lot of small toys from Kinder surprises, scatter them on the table , let the child remember them . Cover the items with a napkin and invite the child to name everything that was there. Pull each correctly named item out from under the napkin. the child takes part in it , but also dad, brother, sister, etc. Offer the child another game : lay out several toys, let the child remember their location, then the child closes his eyes , and you change place toys on the table, or remove one of them. Having opened his eyes, the child must guess what has changed; you can gradually increase the number of toys and objects. These games are not labor-intensive and do not require much time, but at the same time they are very effective in overcoming absent-mindedness in preschoolers and instilling attentiveness. Also, the cause of absent-mindedness can be illness , a temporary weakening of the body. In this case, you should strengthen your immune system with vitamins, improve its nutrition and rest. It all depends on the situation in the family, on the relationship between the parents . If the state of absent-mindedness is systematically repeated, then it becomes habitual and develops into a character trait, and then begins to manifest itself along with other character flaws. For example, absent-mindedness in learning is often associated with laziness, absent-mindedness in communicating with people - with tactlessness and selfishness, absent-mindedness in everyday life - with disorganization and sloppiness. In order to avoid this, you should be attentive to the mental states of your children and evaluate them correctly. If a child concentrates on his thoughts and feelings for a long time, he is distracted from this. By cultivating focus, parents monitor what they are focusing on. Nurturing children's will, sense of responsibility and duty develops concentration and prevents distraction .
Training attention
If your forgetful person inherited this trait from one of his parents, you have been observing an example of this behavior in your family for a long time and understand that it is still possible to live with forgetfulness. And some points can be adjusted.
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- Include in your child’s personal development program all kinds of games and exercises to improve short-term memory, attention, and logic. Training is needed constantly!
- Don’t scold your child: “You’re so absent-minded, helpless, forgetful... And who are you like?!” This is pointless - it’s like scolding someone for the color of their eyes or a feature of their body structure. Such words can make a child feel hurt and unloved.
- It is necessary to find a balance between authoritarian and liberal education. Overprotection will not benefit a forgetful child. To remind him of something, do not endlessly call him on his mobile phone; it is better to leave a note on the refrigerator.
- Teach your child to keep diaries, in the evening or in the morning to make lists of to-dos, purchases, intentions - anything! This structures behavior and keeps even the dreamiest ones on their toes. You can always look at the book, which says what needs to be done and what time the meeting is scheduled.
- Ask as often as possible (not with the air of a primary school teacher, but neutrally): “What time do you have physical education tomorrow? Have I already told you that you need to buy bread? Have you seen such and such a book? Direct your child's attention in the right direction.
- Rule out physiological causes of absent-mindedness. It could be a lack of vitamins or the right fats in the body or lack of sleep.
Anetta Orlova, radio host
— In each individual case, you need to figure out what causes your child’s absent-mindedness. If we are talking about lack of interest, you need to captivate the child. But absent-mindedness can be not just a lack of attention, but also a mental quality. In any case, it is important to remember that attention can be developed. The main thing is not to scold the child.
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Absent-mindedness is a mental state characterized by a lack of concentration and attention.
Absent-mindedness is usually the result of poor upbringing. If a child is accustomed to order, has learned the skills of discipline and organization, and is used to it, he cannot finish what he has started and will be absent-minded. And vice versa, if parents violated the regime, and the disorder in the child’s corner and his forgetfulness are regarded as trifles, then disorganization and absent-mindedness imperceptibly appear in the preschooler’s behavior. These qualities will have a particularly negative impact at school age. It is difficult for an absent-minded student to learn, he is distracted, does not listen to the teacher’s explanations, and may not complete assignments. What can be done to cultivate attention and overcome
absent-mindedness. First of all, you should not reproach a preschooler and punish him for lack of concentration and forgetfulness. It is necessary to patiently train him in correct behavior and teach him to overcome his shortcomings. To do this, a clear daily routine must be strictly observed.
The regime does not allow you to change activities depending on your mood; it requires you to focus your attention and will on the work you have started and bring it to the end. Gradually, following the regime will become a habit, the child will learn to take responsibility for his responsibilities.
To cultivate concentration, it is important to create external conditions and eliminate anything that can distract the child. Parents are sometimes to blame for their children's absent-mindedness. For example: during classes in the next room they turn on a tape recorder, a TV, and the child is also mentally with them, from time to time he leaves his classes and looks in on them. It is important not to distract children from their work and respect their work. Of course, it is not always possible to eliminate what interferes. It is necessary to learn to remain focused in any circumstances. A child can show concentration and attention only in something that captivates and captivates him. He loves to make crafts and take care of flowers. Such activities should be encouraged. This gives the child a sense of responsibility.
Attention and concentration are better trained in the game. For example, take a lot of small objects and scatter them on the table. Let the child remember what things are on the table. Cover everything with a sheet of paper and ask them to name what lies underneath it. Show each named item.
Sometimes a child's absent-mindedness is caused by illness or weakness of the body. In this case, it is necessary to strengthen the child’s health, improve his nutrition and rest. Absent-mindedness can be caused by a bad mood. It all depends on the situation in the family, in the kindergarten. From the relationship between parents.
