Good afternoon One of the most discussed topics among young mothers is how to manage everything with an infant? How to enjoy life, find time for yourself and cook food if a tiny person appears in the house?
For older children - “How to manage everything with a small child without fatigue and loss of strength?” - written a year later.
For very young children - “Our day with two children. The first months”, “The first month of life: how not to go crazy”, “The main thing you need to know about the first six months of a child’s life”
I also recommend reading “Life is a joy”, “Why do mothers get tired?”
Of course, there can be no universal advice here. All children are different. Everyone likes different games. Everyone has a different level of calm... What can I say! The same child at that age changes beyond recognition in a month! Here I will try to outline the basic principles of my life with a baby, and at the end I will describe how our day goes.
Our daughter is almost 8 months old.
I have time for everything. And throughout all 8 months I managed to do at least the necessary minimum... There were both difficult periods and simpler ones... Sometimes I had to carry the child in circles around the apartment almost around the clock (during this period my husband actively helped me)... Mothers of many children will begin to grin: “ What's there to do? Just one child! I also managed everything with one!” Yes, just one child... Therefore, this article is about how to manage everything with just one infant .
How to have time to cook?
Often there is simply not enough time to prepare breakfast, lunch, dinner for yourself, your caring husband, or your child. If the hostess is expecting guests, then cooking can take a very long period of time. The number of problems increases exponentially if at that moment a restless little robber is running around the apartment, giving no rest to anyone.
The only way out of this situation is to wait until the baby falls into a sweet sleep. It is at this time that mom should head to the kitchen to start preparing delicious dishes. If you have kitchen appliances at hand, then preparing a delicious dinner will not be difficult.
When cooking, use only simple recipes that take a few minutes.
If you spend your free time usefully, you can always pamper your relatives with various delicacies, as well as new culinary masterpieces. This advice is perfect for those women who don’t know how to manage everything with a small child.
Quickly search for recipes
If a woman does not have time to cook anything with a two-year-old child, this means that she is sorely lacking time for cooking. In order to solve the problem, you need to find recipes for quick dishes, the preparation of which does not take more than 20-30 minutes.
Numerous recipes are now available in cookbooks, which can be purchased at the appropriate stores for money. But, there is an alternative and completely free option - searching on social networks. Nowadays, a large number of groups have been created on the Internet that publish thematic content for their subscribers completely free of charge. Every day new recipes appear with detailed step-by-step instructions.
If you don’t want to waste time reading, you can visit YouTube, where you can also find many recipes. It is enough to enter a question of interest, and a huge number of results corresponding to the user’s request will appear. The authors of the videos tell and show how to cook correctly. The number of views, likes, and dislikes serves as convincing evidence of the presence or absence of increased interest in the selected video.
Planning Talent
Many people face the problem of lack of time even before the birth of a child, and with the birth of a child, the problem takes on catastrophic proportions. Therefore, it is always useful to learn how to plan your time, because with the birth of a baby, several limiting factors will appear.
Feeding, sleeping, hygiene procedures - all this cannot be postponed to the next day or done when the mood strikes. It is clear that in the first weeks it will be difficult - it will take time to analyze the needs of the baby and adjust your life to his biological clock. However, after a month or two, the daily routine should be fully formed.
Planning your day will help you not only raise a healthy and happy child, but also find time to fill yourself up, look good and charge the world around you with positive energy. And your spouse will be able to pay more attention, which means you will minimize conflicts and quarrels. By the way, I talked about this in detail earlier - if you are interested, read it.
House cleaning
If the family budget allows, then there is always the opportunity to use the services of specialized cleaning companies, whose employees will clean the apartment for a certain amount of money. All that remains is to find suitable performers with a reliable reputation and many years of experience to place an order. Modern gadgets and mobile devices allow you to begin registration through the official websites of such organizations. This information should be remembered by parents who do not understand how to manage everything with two small children.
Unfortunately, not every family can afford to fork out the money to hire third-party specialists, who will save personal time but also increase monthly expenses. If there are no other options, then the mother will have to clean up her own apartment on her own so that the home is clean and cozy.
It is best to do full house cleaning on weekends, when the husband is completely free. If a strong male shoulder is not nearby, then you should bring the baby to his grandparents so that he can stay with them for a while.
An alternative option is to start cleaning the house with your child, who will definitely help in any way he can. You should not forget about cleanliness, because a large accumulation of dust in some places will lead to the development of allergies in the child. When you have time to clean the apartment with your child, you not only save your personal time, but also preserve the health of the baby, who at his age has a very weak immune system. Therefore, it is worth protecting it from various kinds of dangers.
Save time on maintaining cleanliness and order
When it comes to maintaining cleanliness and order in the house, the most important thing is to put away your perfectionism and reconsider your views on cleaning. A recently born child does not need sterile cleanliness, and a growing child is simply incompatible with order.
- Every item in the house, one way or another, requires some care. If an item is not functional and only serves as an aesthetic whole, it is better to remove it for a while. So, for example, you can get rid of carpets, rugs, various small items on shelves and other “dust collectors” for a short time.
- To avoid spending a lot of time on cleaning, it is better not to allow a large amount of housework to accumulate. You can devote 20 minutes a day to cleaning. During this time, you can tidy up several shelves in the closet or wash the floor. So, by doing a little bit every day, you can maintain order in your home without getting tired.
- Some household chores can be done directly with the baby in your arms, or rather, in a sling. For example, the two of you can wash several dishes, lay things out after drying, or wipe the floor.
- Do not neglect the various “miracles of technology” that can really make life easier for a young mother. An automatic washing machine, a washing robot vacuum cleaner, a dishwasher and other gadgets can perform a significant amount of work. Of course, these things require material investments, but if you received money as a gift for the birth of your baby, you should seriously think about spending it on a useful thing.
- It is not at all necessary to iron children's clothes, as they diligently did before. After the umbilical wound has healed, no additional disinfection is required. And in order for dried clothes and diapers to look neater, you can simply straighten them carefully when hanging them.
- Disposable diapers, absorbent diapers, and wet wipes help reduce the amount of washing (which means hanging and folding laundry).
- Be sure to involve all household members in helping around the house. Taking out the trash, washing the cup after yourself, wiping the table after dinner and other tasks can be entrusted to your husband and other family members. It wouldn’t hurt to even make a list of who is responsible for what. This will save you from constant reminders.
How to manage everything with a baby: a hobby
Many women on maternity leave do not forget about their hobbies. This is very commendable, especially considering the fact that there is practically no free time left. Representatives of the fairer sex can have an endless variety of favorite activities:
- writing poetry;
- needlework;
- fitness classes, Pilates, stretching;
- learning foreign languages;
- drawing and painting, and much more.
The most important thing is that you can do all these things together with a small child. The baby will not be a hindrance if he is not just in the same room, but can participate in the process. It will be just wonderful if the child likes this hobby and wants to join his beloved mother, of course, at a level accessible to him. Organize a “mom-like” activity for your child. This way you can have fun, relax and forget about everyday worries for a while.
Use helpers
Ask your husband to help you with housework. assignment without persuasion , you are very lucky. If your spouse is shirking, you should sit down at the negotiating table and calmly discuss everything. Every week, make a list of tasks for your lover: how and when he will do this - he can decide for himself. The main thing is that all the things on the list are completed by the end of the week.
Relationships with loved ones
Women are sometimes perplexed about how to manage everything with three children, especially when it comes to single mothers. A mother of many children should remember that, in addition to a small child, there are other people worthy of attention, for example, the one and only husband. On weekdays, try to spend free evenings together and watch the youngest member of the family grow up.
Sometimes it is worth involving grandparents in raising a child, who will only be glad to see their growing grandson again. Family psychologists give the following useful recommendations:
- spend more free time with your family;
- arrange weekly walks together;
- celebrate holidays together;
- Be very careful about choosing a suitable place to relax during your vacation.
If you follow simple recommendations and do not forget about them, then any family will definitely become strong. Parents should not be afraid of new problems, which only increase with the appearance of children in the family.
Develop your baby
Try to spend more dynamic and varied time with your baby. Communicate with him more, tell him about everything that surrounds him, be sure to take part in his games . If you just watch spend his time , you will spend the same amount of time, but there will be no benefit for the baby himself. And contact with a child always brings positive emotions that recharge you for the whole day.
Chat with friends
When women learn all the delights of motherhood, they very often say: “I can’t manage to do anything with a child.” Representatives of the fairer sex have a new problem when they want to maintain relationships with their friends, who once helped them out and brightened up their time together.
Now it is possible to communicate virtually. This can be done thanks to modern gadgets and devices that are required to perform a number of useful actions:
- register on social networks;
- share new photos of your family life via the Internet;
- add friends to your page, make new acquaintances;
- join thematic groups and learn new information about raising children completely free of charge;
- send an unlimited number of personal messages every day to your interlocutors.
If you prefer real communication, then invite your friends to your place. If your friends also have children, so much the better! Now you can spend your free time with your child, who will definitely focus the attention of all guests. This is how you should have fun without forgetting about your child.
Professional career
Women, like men, want to be successful, irreplaceable and in demand. Therefore, the female half often thinks about their own professional growth and moving their career forward. Sometimes family values are a serious obstacle to realizing your plans. The female audience should be smart in order to get out of this situation with dignity.
If a mother is of the opinion that a child and a career are incompatible, then she is very mistaken, because right now she will learn how to manage everything and get serious about career growth. Currently, the Internet provides its many millions of users with truly extensive opportunities for daily development.
In the vastness of the virtual space, you can open your own personal business and control the influx of interested clients along with making a profit. Now this is possible if you have a computer or laptop.
The child will not be a hindrance, because he can be raised every day and take short breaks to obtain new information on his chosen profession. If you want to start a new business, you can take training online without leaving your home. Educational courses can be paid or free. Right now it’s easy to find a large number of different offers for hiring remote employees.
Any mother should be not only loving and caring, but also disciplined. She needs to make a schedule for the coming day in advance and learn to achieve her goals. Motherhood is hard work, in which you should not forget about the people around you and yourself.
Don't overload yourself with work
The desire to be a super exemplary mother and housewife is quite understandable, but not always realistic. It is not possible to perfectly clean the house, prepare pickles, wash, clean and do laundry in one day. Most of the time you will be busy with the child. Therefore, include in your daily plans what you can do. Avoid tasks that are difficult to complete or completely meaningless. It is not at all necessary to iron the diapers on both sides or arrange perfectly even piles of things in the chest of drawers by color.
