Walking with a newborn: when, how and how much? - Baby from 0 to 3 months - Child care

A baby’s first walk is responsible and important

The first walk is the baby’s first meeting with the outside world, new impressions of the air, wind and rays of sunlight. The sound of rain, the rustling of leaves and the singing of birds are all a wonder for the baby.

How a baby’s acquaintance with the delights of nature goes will determine his sound sleep, healthy appetite, mood and full development. One can talk for hours about the beneficial effect daily walks have on a baby’s development.

The first walk with the baby is also important for parents. A young mother really wants to walk along the streets of her yard with her head held high; she is filled with a sense of pride in herself, in her child, in being a mother.

In order for the first walk with a baby to be successful, it is important to know and understand what time is good for performing this ritual, how long the “excursion” should last and what rules should be followed so as not to harm your child. The time of year when the baby first goes out for a walk is also considered important.

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Walking with a newborn: when, how and how much?

Organizing walks with a newborn baby is not an idle question. Some mothers “walk” with a stroller on the street for three to four hours (or even more), sometimes forcing relatives (usually the husband) to take out and carry the stroller twice a day (including on the fifth floor without an elevator). Others prefer long walks in the country and moderate walks in the city. Still others successfully combine walking with their baby in a sling and shopping, going to the park with older children, etc. Which is correct?

You can walk with your newborn almost immediately after returning from the hospital. Of course, it is important to make allowances for the weather. In windy and very cold weather (as well as in extreme heat), it is better to replace a walk with regular airing of the room (first, of course, move the baby to another room and return it back only after the airing is completed and the air has leveled out).

Usually they walk with small children in almost any weather (in winter - up to -10 degrees). Avoid walking with the baby in strong winds (if it is not possible to place the stroller on the leeward side) or in places that are too dusty and polluted. It is better to start walking with a newborn in your arms from 10 to 15 minutes. Gradually (but not abruptly!) their duration is increased to an hour or two, and the child is transferred to a stroller. It is very important that the baby maintains a good mood during a walk and does not cry.

A sad (and alarming, if you look at the situation from the baby’s perspective) sight is a desperately screaming baby being “shaken” by his mother in a stroller. Do you think such a walk is good for the baby? In order to keep the child’s nervous system in a normal state, such stress should not be allowed. To do this, all you need to do is, in response to infant whims, immediately take the baby in your arms (or in a sling) and discreetly place it on your breast almost anywhere.

The mother must know for sure that a child under one year old cannot cry just like that. A baby's crying indicates that the baby really needs something. Perhaps he is hungry, lying in an uncomfortable position, wants to go to the toilet, is cold (or, on the contrary, he is hot), and misses his mother. Breast milk contains substances called antidepressants that help combat infant stress. That is why the baby quickly calms down at the mother’s breast. And the sucking process itself contributes to this. But many mothers are embarrassed to feed while walking. Instead of a breast, they give the baby a pacifier, thereby developing incorrect sucking skills and creating a threat to breastfeeding. Therefore, the best way to prevent crying on the street is feeding on demand. Moreover, in the fresh air the baby will quickly fall asleep again.

Today, many mothers prefer to walk with their baby in a sling rather than in a stroller. Thus, they can successfully combine high-quality child care with the usual active life of a modern woman - walks with older children, shopping, visiting, etc. Where it is not always convenient to move with a stroller (in a store, on public transport), a young mother can easily navigate with a sling. At the same time, it looks modern and mobile, which is also very important. From a child's perspective, walking in a sling also has its advantages.

The newborn lies in a physiologically correct position (up to three months this is usually a lying position called the “cradle”). The baby is warmed by the mother's body, which is important in cool weather. He can unnoticedly receive the breast at any time (and on the street, the baby’s usual feeding on demand is maintained). In addition, the baby in the sling is located a little higher in level than the baby in the stroller. This is important in large cities, where babies during a walk often breathe not fresh air, but exhaust fumes from passing cars (especially if the mother is walking with a stroller along the highway).

Many mothers who are not yet completely accustomed to a sling successfully use both a stroller and a sling for walks. If the baby is fast asleep, and the mother has no other urgent matters, then he is transferred to the stroller, and the mother can calmly sit on a bench in the park. If the baby begins to be capricious, the mother quickly puts him in a sling, breastfeeds him unnoticed by passers-by, and rocks him to sleep. Walking outside is definitely important for a newborn. However, their duration should depend on the real life factors of a particular family.

If you live in a private house and you have fresh (preferably country) air outside your window, you can leave your baby to sleep in a stroller under the window for two, three, or four hours (in the summer, of course, and in the cold winter an hour is enough). day). You shouldn’t get too carried away with the length of your walks. Fresh air is very important for an adult (and for a child after 8 - 12 months). In fact, to ensure the baby’s need for fresh air, daily ventilation, wet cleaning of the room and short walks (from half an hour in winter to an hour or two in summer) are enough.

The rest of the walk is purely mom’s initiative. If mom’s strength and the ecology of the place where the walk allows her to increase its duration, that’s good. But it happens that a tired and sleep-deprived mother carries her baby in a stroller along a city highway for three hours (and often the child also cries until she falls asleep from fatigue and hopelessness). It seems that this is being done for the sake of the baby. But then at home the same mother loses patience from fatigue and lashes out at the same baby or leaves him crying in the crib alone. Of course, caring for a baby must be thoughtful. After all, for a baby, mother’s presence and breastfeeding on demand are much more important than long walks.

There is no need to get carried away with long walks for another reason. Remember that just a week ago a newborn lived in a very limited space in the mother's womb. This was his usual habitat—familiar and native. Now the little person will have to get used to a much larger space. However, this takes time. If the baby gradually gets used to the room, apartment, and then the street, then a gentle adaptation to the surrounding space occurs. Changing spaces too quickly can cause stress. At the same time, if the mother specifically creates the baby’s familiar conditions of a cramped and limited space (carries her in her arms (hugs), in a sling (the fabric creates a kind of “cocoon”), swaddles her, covers her face with a “corner” (or covers the stroller with a translucent fabric)) , mild spatial adaptation occurs.

It’s good if the mother avoids long walks in the first month and a half after the maternity hospital, and then gradually increases their duration. This gives her the opportunity to regain strength after childbirth, and the baby has time to adapt to new living conditions. As the baby grows up, he will sleep less and stay awake more. That’s when you need to gradually increase your walking time. After all, their goal is not only to breathe fresh air and strengthen the baby.

During a walk, your child gets to know the world around him. Walking with a baby is an excellent way to broaden his horizons. The baby actively absorbs information about what is happening around him. He will be happy to look at houses, cars, trees. It’s good if the child makes this acquaintance not only in a stroller, but also in his mother’s arms (or in a sling). In this case, the baby can always see both objects and the mother’s face. He sees her reaction to the world around her, her facial expressions, her smile. The baby watches his mother communicate with friends, in a store or in public transport. Of course, he assimilates all this as the most important life experience. And although the baby cannot yet reproduce these patterns of behavior, believe me, such a time will come quite soon! Properly organized walks with the baby will help the mother save energy, and the baby will satisfy his true needs.

Ivanova Ekaterina Alexandrovna
04.07.2011

The first walk will be successful if...

A couple of simple tips will allow young but responsible mothers to make their baby’s first walk an exciting journey.

Plan to go outside only after your baby has been fed. The baby is full, which means there is no reason for concern or whims.
Before dressing your baby, be sure to look at the air temperature outside the window. This will help you navigate when identifying the elements of a children's wardrobe.
The walk should be canceled if the thermometer shows the temperature above +30 degrees or below -10.
The first appearance should last no more than 5-15 minutes. Few? But it's safe. Believe me, neonatologists know better.
Each subsequent walk should be five to ten minutes longer than the previous one. So don’t be lazy, keep a time diary for your street entertainment. And when the baby grows up (he will be 3-4 months old), you will be able to walk several times a day, and not for 10 minutes.

What day after discharge?

Gone are the days when parents went out with their newborn after a month of his life. Modern medicine and pediatricians insist that the first walk should take place on the fifth or seventh day after the birth of the child, but subject to certain conditions.

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Condition one: the weather conditions are favorable.

Temperature: in summer - no higher than 30 degrees, in winter - no lower than 20 degrees.
Wind: not squally, not gusty.
Precipitation: no. There is no snow or rain.

Condition two: the child is completely healthy. The body temperature is optimal, the nose is breathing, the eyes are not watery.

First walk in summer: what to pay attention to?

Myths and reality. Parents are deeply mistaken in believing that summer time does not place restrictions on the first walk with their baby. And in vain. Under no circumstances should you go outside with your baby in the summer if he has just been discharged from the hospital, and for a long time at that. Such a hasty decision threatens the baby with overheating and, as a result, heat stroke. The reason for this condition is the immaturity of the thermoregulatory system of infants.

Air temperature. The most optimal and comfortable temperature for a child in the summer is considered to be an air temperature of 23 degrees (plus or minus 2 degrees). If this value is higher, the walk should be postponed until the evening or until it cools down.

Cloth. It determines how the baby will behave and feel in territory unknown to him, so the optimal elements of walking clothing for a baby in the summer are considered:

vest and rompers;
slip;
dress;
bodysuit with short sleeves;
shorts;
socks;
cap.

Clothing on a baby should only be made from natural fabrics. Pure cotton is an ideal material for children's skin: it does not irritate and does not cause allergic reactions. In such clothes, the child’s skin breathes, which means that everything is in order with heat transfer.

The color of clothing must have reflective properties. All pastel colors and shades reflect the bright rays of the sun, protecting against overheating. Let the baby's clothes be white, pale pink or pale blue.

The quality of seams and applications on children's clothing should be of the highest quality. Otherwise, at the slightest overheating, the rough seams will immediately rub the baby’s delicate skin.

Before you go outside, check if your child is comfortable and dressed correctly. To do this, touch his neck.

If it is warm, everything is in order, you have dressed your child correctly.
If the neck is hot, the baby is hot. An increased temperature in the neck indicates overheating. Urgently undress the child and dress him a little lighter.
If the neck is cold, there is only one conclusion: your baby is cold, he is cold.

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Don’t forget to take a “rescue suitcase” with you when you go outside, containing a couple of diapers, a spare diaper, an insulated item or a blanket in case of a sudden temperature change, weather change or unexpected precipitation. Yes, the weather is unpredictable, but you have to be wiser.
Remember: summer is the “hunting season” for mosquitoes. To prevent them from disturbing your baby, attach a mosquito net to the stroller, but remain vigilant so that it does not suddenly jump off and disturb the child’s peace.

Children screaming in public places is not normal

Many young parents are confident that the cry of a baby or the hysteria of a small child is something natural. But in reality there is nothing natural about it. This is comparable to a woman’s hysteria or a man’s attack of aggression.

Children, like adults, resort to prolonged screaming when they lose their nerve because they cannot achieve what they want. And if in the case of an adult it is difficult to do something to stop his incorrect behavior, then in the case of a child it is very simple to do this - you need to eliminate the reason why he feels discomfort.

If a young mother is confident that baby crying is normal when it does not stop for several hours, then her case may be of interest to representatives of juvenile justice. A parent is obliged to respond to the crying of his child by stopping it. Loud screams can cause stress in others, which always (!) leads to deterioration of health.

The woman whose baby screams all the time doesn't realize that people who are stressed for long periods of time because of her baby's screams don't get free medicine and can't lift their mood with a wave of their hand. There is plenty of stress in the modern world, and therefore full-fledged parents do not allow their children to create additional stress for those around them.

In addition, parents who have a sense of responsibility do not allow their offspring to scream for a long time, realizing that such hysterics undermine the health of their children. A constantly screaming baby or a hysterical small child will likely, over time, begin to suffer from physical and mental illnesses.

A physically healthy baby, like a small child, does not become hysterical. He is always calm and only when something bothers him: hunger, thirst, heat, cold, wet diapers, body pain, stale air, stuffy ears and nose, will he cry. The mother is obliged to take care of the comfort of her child so that he does not disturb others with his cries:

1. If a child flies on an airplane with his parents, his ears may become blocked. This condition is unusual for him. Frightened, he begins to scream. Other people unfortunate enough to be on the same plane do not have to endure loud screaming, especially for several hours. It is enough to give your child a bottle of water, iced tea or a pacifier to make his ears numb. A child screaming on an airplane needs to be distracted so that he is not left alone with his hysterics.

2. Often a child gets hot on a bus, train or minibus. Feeling discomfort, the baby begins to scream. To make it easier for him to move, you need to remove excess clothing, ask the driver to open the window or turn on the air conditioning, or give the child a chilled drink. It is best to use cold herbal sweet tea.

A baby, like a small child, behaves better if it is cool. Therefore, there is no need to dress children so that they languish in the heat. Babies are often thirsty, so it's easy to soothe them by offering them bottles of chilled sweet liquid.

3. A mentally healthy child will not scream at the entire store because his parents did not buy him a trinket that he liked. If he does this systematically, it means he has mental problems. There is no need to follow advice like turn away, move away from your child, or hide. It is unacceptable to raise your child in a public place at the expense of the nerves of the people around you. You need to take your child in your arms, put him in the car and take him to an appointment with a psychotherapist. And after that, you need to sign up for parenting courses in order to, with the help of specialists, make up for the lack of basic education.

4. Children suffering from any illness cry for a long time. And babies often cry because of colic. A mother’s responsibility is to maintain or improve the health of her child. If a child cries often, then it is necessary to examine him. You need to make an appointment with your pediatrician. The doctor will send you for examination. You cannot ignore your child’s bad behavior, because it can cost him his health or even his life.

5. Not all mothers understand that a feeling of hunger in a small child can be associated with headaches, severe stomach cramps, nausea and dizziness. Therefore, they feed their offspring strictly according to the clock, causing them to burst into tears at home and in public places. It is not right! You cannot force your child and those around you to suffer because of stupid theories.

A child for whom a balanced diet has been prepared will never eat or drink more than he needs. And no baby drinks more milk than he needs. Therefore, children need to be fed not according to a schedule, but when they ask for it. When going out, you should always take with you a bottle of milk for a baby or puree, buns, cookies, sandwiches, vegetables or fruits for a small child. It is important to relieve him from the feeling of hunger, and those around him from stress due to the baby’s cry.

It is worth remembering that a child who systematically experiences a feeling of hunger will most likely become a glutton. And in the future he will suffer from excess weight. Obesity often becomes a consequence of the mother’s incorrect attitude towards the child and the needs of his body.

6. A mother who takes her child with her to the store forces him to inhale stale air or smell unpleasant odors emanating from strangers. Strong aromas, such as the smell emanating from a person smoking, can shock a baby, and therefore cause him to protest, which is expressed in loud crying. The mother must make sure that her baby feels comfortable. If he begins to cry, she should leave the outlet, allowing the baby to get some fresh air outside.

7. Quite often you can see mothers smoking on the street. Their children, huddled from the extreme cold, with blue lips and fingertips, sit in strollers, as if plunged into suspended animation, and inhale smoke poisoning their bodies. After a while, when the smoke screen that is familiar to the baby, giving a feeling of warmth, melts, he feels cold, which is why he begins to be capricious.

Every mother should know that severe hypothermia is no less dangerous for a child than overheating. Therefore, in winter it is worth dressing your child warmly. You should go for walks with him, and not to smoke a cigarette or chat with friends. The comfort of her own baby should come first for the mother. Then the child will not bother others with his screams and lose his own physical and mental health.

8. Wet clothes, and even more so soiled with something, cause a feeling of discomfort not only in adults, but also in children. And with an unclean mother or because of an allergy to something, the child may suffer from diaper rash and a rash in the groin area. Therefore, when defecating in pants, the baby feels pain. The baby may also suffer from cracks in the skin, and therefore will scream loudly and for a long time if urine or feces gets into them.

The mother may not notice minor damage to the baby’s skin, but he will feel severe pain and therefore cry even after his diapers are replaced with new ones. Therefore, it is important to treat the relevant parts of his body with special wet wipes every time he changes his child’s clothes. This will relieve him of pain and the people around him from stress.

9. Mothers who do not maintain hygiene cause their children to suffer from thrush or parasites. Both are usually associated with pain or discomfort. Therefore, the baby may cry constantly. In this case, you should immediately consult a doctor and pay close attention to hygiene.

10. When a child wants to receive a toy as a gift, you can change his decision without shocking him and the people around him by offering him sweets. Contrary to popular belief, sweets are good for children, as they improve mental performance.

My son was born in the 90s, when there were no sweets and no money for them. So he drank tea, pouring a few spoons of sugar into his cup, and then, scooping up the wet granulated sugar with a spoon, he ate it. Later, sweets from Turkey appeared, which I tried to buy for my child more often. The child grew up smart.
Already at the age of 3, he was playing a game on the computer that required ingenuity and quick reaction. He later became the best student in school. And then he went to university. He currently works as a financial advisor. And by the way, he did not and does not have problems with his teeth. He never knew and does not know what caries is, because he did not eat meat or meat products during the formation of his teeth.

Children need sweets to develop their thinking and strengthen their memory. They need to explore the world, think and remember. Children who don't get sweets usually don't do well in school, have trouble remembering what their parents tell them, are very restless, and are usually unable to make good decisions and therefore get into trouble or create problems for others.

Don't forget that sweets improve your mood, especially if it's chocolate. Having received sweets in exchange for a toy, the child will not throw tantrums. In order for him to agree with the replacement, it is worth offering him to choose something, slipping him different bags for which he would not mind spending money. However, there is no need to buy sour candies and gelatin candies for your child. Acid increases irritability.

First walk in the spring-autumn period

Autumn-spring time is a very “slippery” time for the first walk with a baby. Why? The weather is unstable (it’s sunny in the morning, but by the time you’ve dressed the baby, the sun has gone behind the clouds and it’s raining), no longer warm, but not yet frosty. Uncertainties always require an increased amount of responsibility and caution from parents.

The first walk, if it takes place in the fall or spring, should be carried out no earlier than a week after discharge from the hospital.

Duration of walk and air temperature. How long should the first walk last in spring or autumn? The same amount as in summer – from 5 to 15 minutes. But the baby himself will help to clearly determine the time of his stay on the street. More precisely, his behavior. Is he calm? Not frozen? Then you have 20 minutes at your disposal. But if the child is capricious, crying, or does not want to lie in the stroller, the walk should be stopped.

Increase each subsequent walk by 10-12 minutes. This way you will reach the 1.5 hour limit. This is exactly the time that babies are allowed to spend outside in the autumn-spring period.

Cloth. For babies born in spring or autumn, it is always more difficult to choose clothes for walking than for children born in summer or winter.

It is important to be alert and be prepared for any bad weather, for any unforeseen situations.

How to properly dress a child for a walk in spring and autumn?

Spring and autumn require parents to frequently combine clothing items in search of the optimal solution. How to do it right?

May. September. On warm autumn-spring days, when the air temperature reaches 10 degrees Celsius, it is not recommended to “pack” the child. He will feel very comfortable in the following items of clothing:

bodysuit with long sleeves or insulated vest;
thin blouse;
thin quilted overalls;
warm hat.

Is the air temperature less than five degrees above zero? Add to the above wardrobe a thin hat, which must be worn under a warm one, and replace the autumn jumpsuit with a winter one.
If you are going for a walk in early autumn or late spring, it is enough to dress your child in a bodysuit, and then in a slip or summer overalls for walking. If it’s mid-autumn and spring and the weather is no longer warm, then a hat and autumn overalls will be enough to create warmth and comfort.

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Remember! Warmth for the baby is achieved through layering of clothing, and not through the thickness of the wardrobe elements used. If a child is hot, what should he do? The solution is clear: remove the extra jacket from the baby, and do not continue to “float” him in warm winter overalls.
Don't forget to take a blanket or blanket with you for your walk. They will come in handy if the wind suddenly blows up.

You can't raise children at the expense of others

As a rule, children who scream in public places incessantly were never raised by anyone. Their parents believe that at first they can allow the child absolutely everything, and then ignore any of his requests. The kid understands that persuasion does not help, and therefore throws tantrums. His parents, unable to cope with his antics, ignore his behavior, even if he screams for hours on public transport.

Such behavior by adults should be punished, according to victims of hours of screaming from other people's children. Incorrect upbringing will not allow a child to interact correctly with society. And ignoring any problems of a child will make him believe that no one needs him, which will affect his personal life when he becomes an adult. And the fact that his parents ignore his wishes instills in his subconscious the belief that he will never be able to achieve anything. This is how people grow up who remain poor and unhappy all their lives.

Typically, parents who know nothing about parenting refer to the myth of hyperactive children, who are now called “indigos.” But in fact, this is just a way to pass off one’s incompetence as a characteristic of the behavior of representatives of entire generations. These people do not even admit the idea that there are no children who cannot be raised correctly.

There are victims of inept parents who followed fashion. They first allow their child everything, and then pretend that he does not exist. And the child expresses his disagreement with this behavior of his parents by protest - hysteria. No hyperactive children. There are parents who do not know how to approach their own offspring.

When a child cries in public, he is trying to “tell” those who are supposed to take care of him that something does not suit him. The problem cannot be ignored. No amount of indifference, hiding from a hysterical child and stepping over him will help correct his behavior. It is necessary to talk with your child, explaining to him how he should behave, especially in public places.

Proper upbringing of a child helps preserve the health of him, his parents and the people around him. If a mother sits in a cafe and pretends not to hear her wildly screaming child, people are sure that it is worth paying attention to her behavior of representatives of juvenile justice. After all, such a woman undermines the child’s health and tries to “educate” him at the expense of those around her. The consequences of contact with guardianship authorities can be tragic.

Don’t forget that some of those people who ended up in the same cafe will run to take pills, which, by the way, are not cheap. Others will find themselves in a pre-infarction state. Still others will not be able to sleep at night, will quarrel with their spouses, or will say something to strangers. The cry of a child is never perceived by others as the singing of birds. After all, it only causes stress. And therefore, most of those who are forced to hear him mentally curse the screaming child and his mother. As a result of stress, the crying baby and the person who had to listen to him become victims of excess cortisol. This hormone is produced during times of stress. If there is a lot of it, it destroys the tissues of internal organs. What causes autoimmune reactions in the body. That's why cortisol is called the death hormone.

A young mother may think that she wants to relax in a cafe. But she must understand that other people came there for the same thing. There is no need to rely on the tolerance of strangers. If you have no idea how to create comfortable conditions for your child, you should give up your desires and stay at home.

Young mothers believe that if they cannot leave their children with someone to go about their business or have fun, then this is a good reason for them to ignore the cries of their babies. However, the absence of a nanny is not a reason to behave disrespectfully towards your child and others.

Only my husband helped me raise my children. He sometimes got up at night and often nursed the kids in the evenings. But, in general, most of the time I had to cope on my own. When we were going somewhere or I was going somewhere on my own, there was no way to leave the children with someone. Therefore, I had to take them with me everywhere. Because I cared about the comfort of my children, they never cried or threw tantrums in public places.

Sometimes poor people come to the cafe, for whom such a snack turns out to be very expensive. It’s easy to imagine what they think, how annoyed they are when someone ruins their entire vacation with their shouting. Maybe they save for months so that they can dine out at a restaurant once every six months. And the young mother, who believed that everyone owed her and should admire her child’s hysterics, ruined for them the joyful event that had previously brightened up their drab existence.

Full-fledged parents will not “raise” their children at the expense of other people’s nerves, health and money. They care about the comfort of their offspring and those around them. They know that hysteria in a public place is unacceptable. They always know what to do when a child cries. After all, they care that their baby grows up healthy and able to interact correctly with others.

I once witnessed an altercation that arose on a train between a young mother, whose child had been crying loudly for 20 minutes, and an elderly woman. “Nazhemat” proved to the “old junk,” as she called her grandmother, that she and all passengers, like, in general, the whole country, should bow at her feet, for the fact that she gave birth to a child and endures (! ) his screams day and night. She threw out slogans like: “Children are our future,” scolded the state and openly insulted everyone who dared to be outraged by her child’s hysteria and behavior.

Due to the unwillingness to take responsibility, the woman defends her right to behave in public as she pleases - to remain indifferent to the cries of her child. But it was she herself who decided to give birth. This means that no one owes her anything - neither the state, nor even strangers. You must be aware of your responsibility to your own child and for his behavior. And don’t expect a kind attitude from people who are stressed because of the baby’s screams.

For such a woman, it is not enough that the state pays her benefits. It may be meager, but it still pays. She is not grateful that she can not go to work, but take care of the child. It’s not enough for her that, for the sake of her child’s health, smoking in public places was prohibited. There are not enough equipped playgrounds for her, where walking animals is prohibited. Green parks with fresh air are not enough for her. She does not appreciate the help of her husband and parents. Moreover, she pretends to be tolerant of those around her, believing that they should admire the cry of her child.

In fact, for the sake of children's health, the rights of dog owners and nicotine lovers were legally infringed. They must accept that mothers are unhappy with animal feces and cigarette smoke. And despite all this, many women expect or even demand maximum patience from others only because they themselves do not have an understanding of how to meet the needs of their own children.

A young mother should understand that not a single person owes anything to her, or to her offspring. A random passerby has no obligation to endure the screams of someone else's baby. If a woman decides to give birth to a child, she is obliged to take care of him and not create stressful situations for him and those around him. If she believes that she has made a contribution to the future of the country, then she should demand additional benefits from the state, but not patience and understanding from ordinary people whose lives already consist of stressful situations.

A child was born in winter: how to organize the first walk?

No matter how much you would like to go outside and walk with your baby in the crisp white snow, you are allowed to plan your first walk in winter no earlier than two weeks after discharge.

Duration and conditions of the walk. The time spent outside depends solely on the air temperature.

If it's 15 degrees below zero outside, wait until you reach a more optimal temperature. But if you do not intend to give up the walk, then its duration should be no more than 10 minutes.
If there is severe frost or blizzard weather outside, a walk is also not advisable. There is no pleasure from such adventures, but the baby’s frozen cheeks and nose are guaranteed.
If the air temperature gradually increases, increase the time you spend outside.
The maximum duration of a winter walk is 60-90 minutes.

Cloth. The best option for winter clothing for a baby is a transformable overalls, which is easy to put on and also easy to take off. It retains heat perfectly thanks to natural fur or down. Wear the overalls over a long-sleeved insulated bodysuit and be sure that the child is warm and there is no possibility of exposing the back.

Happy hour and the perfect place to go

To make the walk enjoyable, we recommend choosing a time for it when most residents are at work or school. Can you guess what “happy hours” we are talking about? This time is from 9 am to noon. The sun is not hot yet, but it is already warming. During such walking hours, you will eliminate street noise, shouting and unwanted glances from passersby.

You can walk anywhere where the air is clean, saturated with oxygen and not polluted. Consider a forest, park or public garden. But you shouldn’t go too far from home, in case something bothers your baby.

You need to go for a walk at any time of the year, both summer and winter. The only thing is that you need to organize everything correctly, take into account all the nuances and adapt to weather conditions.

Have a nice walk!

What are the dangers of tantrums in public places?

Recently, people on the Internet have begun to speculate about whether it is necessary to introduce liability for parents whose children yell in public places. And despite the barrage of negative comments from mothers who are confident in their right not to react to the crying of their own children, there are adequate people who understand what a child’s hysteria can lead to. This noise, which exceeds permissible standards, can cause a number of health problems and even lead to death:

1. There are people who suffer from high blood pressure. If they become nervous because other people's children are screaming, their blood pressure rises. Therefore, they have to take medications, which are currently very expensive. High blood pressure can cause a stroke. And those who survive it do not always recover, remaining incapacitated for many years. A long tantrum from someone else's child can make a sick person disabled.

2. Those suffering from heart problems should not be nervous. After all, any nervous overload can be fatal for them. The whim of an ill-mannered child can cost the life of a person who was forced to go to the store to purchase the goods he needed, rode public transport to work, or decided to give his body and psyche a rest by going to a cafe or restaurant.

3. There are currently a lot of people suffering from excess adrenaline. After all, stress is created at every step. An uncontrolled release of adrenaline causes trembling of limbs, convulsions, twitching of body parts, panic attack, severe migraine and even vomiting.

A person suffering from adrenaline rushes, nervous due to the hysterics of someone else’s child, cannot get rid of a migraine within 24 hours, even using painkillers. He is unable to sleep for 3 (!) days, even taking sleeping pills. It’s easy to guess how insomnia and excess adrenaline will affect his health, performance and relationships with loved ones.

4. People with a weak nervous system, irritated by the loud screams of other people's children, may feel pain on the skin or in one of the parts of the body. Their sleep is disturbed and their appetite disappears. Exposed to the unnerving screams of an ill-mannered child, such people can become seriously ill.

5. Nervous overload during pregnancy is contraindicated for a pregnant woman. If she were to be in a public place where parents allowed their children to scream and cry for a long time, she would likely become stressed, which would negatively affect the health of herself and her baby and could cause miscarriage or difficulties during childbirth.

6. Elderly people need peace. After all, they lived long and difficult lives. They have weak psyches, nervous and cardiovascular systems, their blood pressure fluctuates, and many experience frequent adrenaline surges. Unable to cope with the stress into which a child's crying drives them, these people may die on the spot.

7. Diabetics are contraindicated from worrying. Any stress causes their blood sugar levels to rise. And if a diabetic realizes too late that he has become stressed because of the screams of someone else’s child, he may not have time to take or inject insulin. As a result, he may die.

These are not all cases where a crying child or throwing a tantrum because they did not buy a toy can provoke health problems or even death in a person. Therefore, one should not be surprised that people are calling for parents who do not want to raise their offspring or do so at the expense of others to be held accountable.

If a young mother does not understand the damage caused to others when she does not look after her child, and believes that sick people should lock themselves in their homes to avoid stress, one can conclude that she is acting selfishly. She needs to stay at home with her offspring, because she is on maternity leave. It is not given for her to have fun. And so that she pays maximum attention to her baby. Well, sick people, suffering from the cries of her child, are forced to go to work and shop in stores in order to survive.

I raised two children. In kindergartens and schools, educators and teachers asked me how I managed to raise children to be obedient, kind and calm. When I thought about it, I realized that I had never allowed my offspring to become nervous or to make others nervous.
Our friends were surprised that we went to the supermarket with the baby to shop. They did not understand how a baby could not scream in a crowded place. But this is achieved very easily - the child should feel comfortable. To do this, you need to change his diaper before the trip. In the store, you should cover the stroller or car seat with tulle. The baby will see the figures of the parents, but will not be afraid of people passing by.

When going to a public place with your baby, you should always have a bottle of chilled sweet liquid with you. It's better to use iced tea. Together with the doctor, you need to select herbs that are useful for the child’s digestion and soothe him: - fennel relieves colic and muscle spasms, improves digestion, and normalizes sleep; — chamomile calms the child and eliminates inflammatory processes in his body; - mint calms the baby and normalizes his sleep; - valerian promotes calm; - Melissa relaxes.

It’s easy to make your own tea from these herbs. You can buy it in a store or in a pharmacy ready-made. Brewed with boiling water, it is stored in the refrigerator for 2 days. When going to a public place with your baby, just in case you need to take with you a bottle of milk or a snack that is healthy for the child’s body.

As the mother of a small child, I knew from the first grunt of displeasure that something was bothering the child. Analyzing each situation, I realized that it could be wet pants, thirst or hunger. We flew with our children on airplanes, traveled on public transport, visited restaurants, cafes, swimming pools and cinemas. And none of my children ever threw a tantrum, even as babies. Moreover, I taught older children to speak in a low voice in public places.
My son was a fairly calm child as an infant. But my daughter could be hysterical for any reason. And I always immediately found a solution that saved me, her and those around me from hassle. For example, if she started crying at night, I would keep her room cool so as not to disturb the neighbors with her nighttime cries. When she started whining in public, I would give her a bottle of chilled sweet tea, saving myself, her and those around me a lot of stress.
I am sure that a caring mother will always take care of the comfort of her child. And when he grows up, she will be able to explain to him how to behave in a public place. I do not consider those who allow their children to bother others to be full-fledged parents. Nowadays, more and more often, the lack of education is covered up by advanced techniques, such as Japanese ones. These methods are used to “educate” those who have absolutely no idea what education is.
I have learned from my own experience that babies are able to remain calm at home and in public. After all, she supported the health of her children, both physical and mental. And besides, I was constantly concerned about their comfort. And when I see a mother indifferently reading a book or talking on the phone while her child is crying loudly, I always think that it is precisely these people who are being deprived of their maternal rights.