Beautiful wishes and poems for 7 months old daughter, son

The pace of development of children in the second half of life can vary greatly; someone begins to crawl at 7 months and his parents do not have time to keep track of the toddler moving around the entire apartment, and someone else does not sit quite confidently and does not even intend to walk. It is no longer so easy to say exactly what a child should be able to do at 7 months; each baby develops according to its own “scenario” and parents must learn to distinguish between the peculiarities of the pace of development of their child and age-related pathology.

Physiological development of a 7 month old child

A seven-month-old baby differs from a six-month-old baby in physical parameters.

His weight increased by 500–700 grams, height by 1–2 cm, and head and chest circumference by half a centimeter.

Changes in the physical parameters of the baby can be tracked in this table:

And by the age of 7 months, almost all children start teething.

The baby's mouth is first decorated with the two lower incisors, then the two upper ones, then the lateral ones, but these teeth appear later.

But most babies acquire two lower incisors by the age of seven months.

What changes are typical for seven months of age?

At this stage, significant changes occur in the child’s physiology, and the main one is teething and the introduction of foods from the adult table into the diet.

There are other signs indicating metamorphoses occurring in a recently helpless baby:

1. The baby completes the formation of such important functions as vision and hearing. The child is able to distinguish even the quietest extraneous sound, to which he immediately turns around. He can distinguish objects, static and moving, at some distance.
2. Since at this time the right hemisphere of the brain is intensively developing, the baby performs all the main actions mainly with the left hand, but this phenomenon is temporary, which does not mean at all that this hand will be dominant.
3. The baby's muscles gradually gain strength - this allows him to sit confidently and crawl quickly. Especially early children are already trying to stand up, holding on to the furniture.
4. Since significant changes are observed in the baby’s diet, he begins to go to the toilet only once a day.

By the seventh month of life, children gain a total of up to 600 g of weight and grow by a couple of centimeters. Their chest volume and head increase. On average, by this age, height reaches 68-70 centimeters, and weight – 7.5-9 kilograms.

It is interesting that the previously plump baby begins to gradually become slimmer and longer, this is due to more intense energy expenditure during games and physical activities. Small differences in parameters from the norm should not frighten parents - the main indicator of a toddler’s health is its mobility, good mood and appetite.

Psychological development of a child at 7 months

Psychologically, the seven-month-old baby has matured significantly.

He is actively interested in the outside world, tries objects that interest him by taste and touch, and loves company.

The child is still very wary of strangers, not wanting to be alone with them or spend time in their arms.

There is no need to consider this a sign of unsociability or developmental problems, as the baby shows an instinct of self-defense.

The character of a child at 7 months can upset parents: he is capricious, starts crying, throws tantrums, and whines.

This is due not only to the discomfort that teething causes him, but also to the fact that the baby is trying to convey his opinion to you, as best he can, to show you what he doesn’t like and what he wants to get.

Baby development at 6 months

Seven-month-old babies don’t like to spend time alone, so the mother will have to do homework in the company of the child, it’s difficult, but it’s not boring and you definitely won’t miss something interesting in your child’s life.

The child establishes a special emotional connection with the mother, which should not be broken by the long absence of the main person in the life of each child, as this can cause psychological trauma to the baby.

Raising children 7 - 12 months

Features of this age

In the first half of the year, when the baby was still very small, he perceived all your actions as a given: he did not particularly resist washing - washing, dressing - undressing; lay where you put him and played with the toys you gave him... But after six months of age, children begin to actively show their position in life, and oh, how difficult it is to get them outside, feed them healthy porridge, or leave them for half an hour with sympathetic friend.

The older a child gets, the more the world opens up before him and the more opportunities appear.

Now what is important for a child is not just communication with an adult, not affection and “usi-pusi” (although, of course, no one is talking about communication and cooperation through playing with various objects.

The second half of a child’s life is a period of active study of the properties of objects: their size, shape, weight, etc. It is important to arouse the child’s interest in toys and the joy of playing together with an adult. At the same time, try to provide the child with as much freedom and opportunity to take initiative as possible: let him choose a toy, explore it, chew it, knock it, throw it, etc. A child who is aware of his increasing capabilities in relation to the people around him, objects and himself has every chance to grow up confident and responsible.

Dangers and first prohibitions

At about 7-8 months the baby begins to crawl, and it is especially difficult for the mother: after all, there is so much dangerous stuff around, and he is so nimble! How can you keep an eye on him? To avoid possible unpleasant situations, put away dangerous items (first aid kit, dad’s tools, pins and needles, plastic bags (as an experiment, the child can pull it over his head), etc.), as well as those things that the baby can easily ruin ( grandma's glasses, crystal vases, flowers in pots, etc.). But, of course, it is impossible to remove everything, so the baby will inevitably face the first prohibitions.

In order not to discourage a child’s interest in research activities, to avoid unnecessary conflict situations and to achieve the child’s unquestioning obedience to prohibitions, parents need to remember that:

• prohibitions should be clear and there should be few of them , otherwise the child will get confused, will not understand what is and what is not allowed and will feel insecure;
• prohibitions should concern truly dangerous things (socket, knife, hot kettle, etc.);
• prohibitions must be permanent, understandable and “no alternative”.

This means that never, under any circumstances, neither in front of dad, nor in front of mom, neither in the morning nor in the evening, you can’t play with the stove switch knobs, you can’t touch the iron (even if it’s turned off), you can’t pull the cat’s tail, etc. .d.

• prohibitions must be voiced tactfully, in a calm but confident tone , without shouting in any case, so as not to scare the child;

Get ready for the fact that the baby will still check and double-check how firm the boundaries of prohibitions are: “Mom seems to be in a good mood now - maybe it’s possible?; grandma came - what if she likes my trick with breaking a cup? If you give in, the baby will understand that “you can’t” can turn into “you can”, you just have to find the “right” moment or cry a little. And then litigation will definitely not be avoided. So, in the best interests of the child, be firm and consistent.

If the child very persistently demands something inappropriate at the moment, and a conflict situation is brewing, try to “defuse” it in the bud. Children at this age have difficulty regulating their behavior and are sensitive to direct categorical prohibitions. Therefore, it is better to use “distracting” and “switching” techniques, such as: “What do I have! Come to me, I’ll show you...” or “physical influence”: quickly remove the subject of the dispute, take the baby to another room, hold him close until he calms down, or hold the baby’s hand if, for example, he slaps you in the face.

External and internal boundaries of personality

At the age of 9-10 months, the baby is ready to master the norms of relationships between people. He already understands praise (rejoices at it) and blame (gets upset). Keep in mind that in order for a child to develop correct self-esteem, approval must prevail over negative influences. In addition, praise is much more informative: with its help you show the child what and how to do and what to strive for. An adult's assessment becomes the most important tool in raising a child.

The author of the famous book “After Three It’s Too Late,” Masaru Ibuka, believed that it is better to show a child the boundaries of what is permitted from the very beginning and create pleasant emotions in him when he does something well, and unpleasant ones when he does something badly, than to spoil him during the first year, and then suddenly become strict. That is, from the very beginning, children need certainty.

Children are very emotional and impulsive. They cannot restrain themselves and think about the consequences. If he wants to eat, he will whine, if he gets scared, he will cry, if he gets angry, he will hit, if they didn’t give him a toy, he will vomit, etc. And for a small child this is a natural expression of his feelings.

But parents must gradually develop self-control in their child. And then he will really learn self-control with age. A vague idea of ​​the rules of behavior will lead to the child feeling insecure in himself and in those around him, he will be overcome by momentary desires and uncontrollable emotions.

In the book by the famous psychologist Julia Gippenreiter “Communicate with a child. So?" The following eloquent example is given: “A young black mother was sitting on a bench with a baby on her lap. The baby could be given no more than one year old by eye. Both communicated with smiles, gestures and short words. At some point, the child got angry and slapped his mother in the face. "Stop it!" – the mother said sternly, raising her index finger. But the baby soon repeated his spank. "Stop it!" – the mother repeated sternly again. After the baby’s third attempt to reach his mother’s face, she took him off her lap and put him on his feet next to her (he already knew how to stand), ceasing to pay attention to him. The baby whimpered; After waiting a little, his mother sat him on her lap again. At some point, in response to his suspicious gesture, she simply raised her finger with a serious face - and the incident was over. Communication has returned to a peaceful course.” The young mother acted intuitively; she clearly and at the same time gently communicated to the baby a decisive ban on unfriendly actions towards herself.

“The smaller the child, the easier it is to make boundaries the norm,” write Henry Cloud and John Townsend, Ph.D., in their book Children: Boundaries, Boundaries... Only those children who know boundaries, have inner strength and character will be able to learn to manage their lives and achieve success.

But for now, let's not look that far and return to our little one. Annette Kast-Zan’s book “Every Child Can Be Taught Rules” describes the following reasonable rules that a child can learn by the end of the first year of life:

• My mommy decides when she will give me food and what kind of food it will be. I can decide if I will eat it and if so, how much.
• If I am calm and in a good mood, my mother plays with me especially a lot and willingly.
• If I pay, I will get everything I need. If I continue to cry, my parents stop paying attention to me.
• My parents work with me a lot during the day. But if they have important things to do, I have to entertain myself, even if I don't like it.
• In our house I can explore almost everything. But there are some things I should never touch.

Thus, the child understands: “I will get everything I need from my parents. But not necessarily everything I want. My parents respect my needs, but they have them too. And sometimes they know better what is good for me and what is not.”

Where is the golden mean of education?

As in everything, in raising a child you need a golden mean! Try to avoid two extremes: total obedience at any cost, in which the child becomes weak-willed and dependent, and vice versa, permissiveness, in which the child does not know the limits and limits of what is permissible.

It is advisable for parents to be positive, consistent, balanced and flexible. At some point you will feel that you need to give in to the child (if it is really important to him), and at some point you will have to insist on your own (if the consequences of the child’s action can harm the psychological or physical health of both the child himself and another person ). The more flexible you are, the less the baby will have to resist and protest, which means the calmer he will be. In addition, with your flexibility you will teach your child that life is full of “compromises”. Today they gave in to you, tomorrow you gave in.

To make sure that you are on the right track, it is enough to observe what mood prevails in the child.

• If the baby is cheerful, cheerful, smiles often, shows initiative and is eager to communicate, wakes up in a good mood, then this indicates that the baby’s needs for emotional and business communication with his mother are fully satisfied, he grows up in comfortable conditions and trusts his parents.
• If negative emotions predominate in a child, if he is unsmiling and withdrawn, lethargic and lacking initiative, often cries, whines and is capricious - this may indicate an unsatisfied and anxious state of the child, which has developed due to inconsistent, indifferent or, on the contrary, “overprotective” upbringing.

For example, some young parents are afraid to pamper and spoil their child too much. This is especially true in relation to the firstborn or son. “This is the future man! And he’s growing up to be a mama’s boy...” or “I can’t be around all the time, let him learn to get by on his own, otherwise he’ll end up walking around,” you can hear from them.

Such parents sometimes give the child too much independence and do not help even in really difficult situations: he climbed a ladder onto a slide and cannot get down - “let him get out on his own, next time he will know where to climb”; fell, was badly hurt - they don’t help you get up and don’t regret it - “men don’t cry”; if you are hungry - they force you to eat on your own, with a spoon, etc.

With this behavior, parents set an example for their child of indifference to the needs of a loved one and show that he does not mean anything to them.

The opposite situation often occurs. Especially if a late and long-awaited child was born into the family, perhaps with poor health, the only grandchild of the grandparents. And then adults try to express the love that has accumulated in them as abundantly as possible. They anticipate and abundantly satisfy all the child’s needs. He, poor thing, has no opportunity left to show independence: he reached for his grandmother’s glasses - “please, grandson, play”; fell - they are already in a hurry to pick him up, anxiously checking whether everything is in place; threw the toy - “oh, you fool,” and obsessively show the “only correct” way to play; they drink from a cup and pacifier, not allowing the baby to wet himself and learn to drink on his own... In general, they do everything for the child that he could do himself. As a result, such upbringing contributes to the development of suspiciousness, weakness, dependence and uncertainty in the child.

The lack of a single line of upbringing and inconsistency also undermines the child’s confidence and balance, since he does not have the feeling that the world around him is stable; he does not know what to expect from adults and does not trust them. Parents either relentlessly follow the baby, insuring his every step, or leave him to his own devices for a long time; sometimes they scold, sometimes they “love”; sometimes everything is prohibited, sometimes everything is allowed, etc.

To summarize, let's say that the child needs to know that he is free and valuable in himself, but at the same time he must feel that there is a guiding force and reliable support behind him, which will help if necessary.

Author: Koldina Daria

Physical development

At this stage of life, the toddler is already turning to the sides. The main achievement at seven months is mastering crawling. It is important to stimulate him until the baby begins to walk.

Moving on all fours strengthens the abs, back, arms and legs. Such natural gymnastics forms the muscular framework for walking and sitting independently.

The skill is also important for psychological development, because such opportunities arise to conquer space! The baby can get to mom, choose a place to play, and get close to an object of interest. What can you do to encourage babies to crawl?

• Place an attractive toy at such a distance that the baby can barely reach it.
• If you see your baby trying to move, place your hand on his feet and help him push off.
• Make sure your clothing is always comfortable for movement.
• Encourage and praise your baby for her desire to move independently.
• Regular gymnastics helps develop and strengthen muscles.
• Provide opportunity for free movement: place the baby on a covered floor, for example.

Is it possible to seat children during this period of life? According to pediatricians, a little person must first learn to crawl and then sit down. Therefore, do not rush to cover the baby with pillows and prepare chairs with a vertical back. The baby can be “sit down” while he is in your arms, and then not for long.

Speech and communication

Up to a year, the baby accumulates a vocabulary, more precisely, understandable words. Already at seven months you can notice this - the little man responds to an adult’s address, responds to his name, looks with his eyes for the object his parents are talking about. Babbling develops and improves. The baby talks more and more, new combinations of sounds appear.

Children with silent mothers master and reproduce speech much later, so experts recommend talking to the baby from prenatal age.

To remember one word, a child needs to hear it at least 60 times! So communicate with your little one as much as possible. Comment on everything that is happening, name the objects and actions that accompany the baby.

Actions with objects

The main volume of play for children aged 7 months is occupied by things and interesting objects. The baby himself takes objects, feels them, knocks them, transfers them from one hand to another.

Each manipulation gives the baby pleasure and allows him to study and discover a new property of a toy or thing.

Please note that the child constantly throws things out of the bed and playpen. Every meal is now inevitably accompanied by falling forks and spoons. Why does the toddler do this?

Is it really showing character? No, this is how a little man learns the world of objects and their properties. He is curious about the sound the toy will make when it falls, what it will do next—roll, jump, break.

What can a mother do to develop such an interest?

• Comment on all the actions that the baby performs.
  “What a clever boy (girl) we are, rolling a ball!”, “How great you are at rattling a rattle, do it again!” and so on.
• Take part in the little ones' games. Does he throw the pacifier out of the cradle and look at you expectantly? Pick it up and hand it to the little one. He will gladly throw her out again! Don't forget about point 1.
• Talk about the properties of objects - the car rolls, the rattle rattles, the water splashes in the bath.

Don't limit your little one's choice of subjects to study. It is not necessary to teach your toddler using expensive toys; you can make them yourself from scrap items. Give your child ribbons, handkerchiefs, wooden spoons, jars filled with peas (they rattle no worse than rattles).

Self-care skills

At seven months, the baby does not know how to take care of himself, but he can already be taught some things. How is your nutrition provided? Does the baby take the spoon and then try to eat on his own? Give him this opportunity.

At first he will miss and dirty everything around him, but after 2-3 months of hard training he will master the skill.

Even in the seventh month of life, children can be taught to drink from a mug (if a parent holds it). How to do it?

• Wait until the baby is thirsty.
• Pour a couple of sips of the drink into a mug and give the little one a drink.
• Make sure that he does not “lick” the liquid with his tongue, but rather drinks (the mug should lie on his tongue).
• Control the flow of the drink, make sure that the baby does not choke.

The basis of success is patience and the desire to teach the baby something. If you lack one or the other, do not torture yourself and your baby. The time will come, and the little man will master such skills almost without your participation.