7 reasons why a baby is crying

Immediately after birth, the baby cries. This is a natural and healthy sign.

But when a month-old baby cries constantly, it means that something is bothering him.

It is important to find out what the cause of moodiness is and try to eliminate it.

A child's cry: what adults feel

Everywhere you can read that “gradually the mother learns to distinguish the sounds made by her child.” With experience, you really begin to see the difference between the cry of a hungry wolf and the whimpering of a sick baby. But no one mentions that any kind of crying is ultimately very draining.

Of course, the mother has enough intelligence and empathy to understand that the baby has no other ways of expressing himself. He screams not at all to annoy his mother, but only to ask her for help.

Of course you know all this. However, for a split second you have the urge to shout: “Will you ever shut up, little monster!”

Depending on the age of the child, crying is perceived differently, and several stages can be distinguished in the perception of children's crying by parents.

Newborn: parents do not understand very well the reason for his crying, they feel powerless, frantically trying to find at least some solution, asking themselves whether they are good parents (feeling of guilt - 5 points on a five-point scale).
A few weeks later: parents know why their baby is crying, and without hesitation they find a solution (which they came to through sleepless nights and hundreds of dirty diapers).
After several months: the baby has perfectly mastered how to get his parents to respond and begins to use all his powers of persuasion. The parents are already quite seasoned and know how to avoid the traps set by the little sly one.

Favorite time and place of a screaming baby

In the middle of the night at the hotel.
In the supermarket, under the evil gaze of women in curlers.
On an airplane (especially during a long flight).
When mom is on the phone and needs to write down important information about an upcoming meeting.
In the car as you try to find your meeting place.
During any ceremony, meeting to which you were forced to take it.

How to calm a crying baby?

First, you need to find out why the baby is crying, and only then begin to calm him down. If the reason for crying is a feeling of hunger, feed him, even though not even 2 hours have passed since the last feeding. If colic is the cause, give your baby medicine and massage. And it is done as follows:

put the child on the bed;
put your hand on his stomach, your palm should completely touch his stomach;
mentally draw a horseshoe on his stomach, the ends of which are directed downwards;
With smooth hand movements, follow the trajectory of the horseshoe clockwise.

If this massage does not help your baby, then you can use another massage. However, it can only be performed from 1 month:

put the child on the bed;
bend both legs at the knees so that they touch the stomach;
With smooth movements, move the child’s legs first to one side, then to the other. The legs should be pressed tightly against each other and against the stomach.

If these methods do not help, you can use a gas outlet tube. However, you should not abuse it, since the body can get used to the mechanical method of getting rid of gases and then it will be difficult to establish this process.

If a baby who is 1 or 2 months old is crying and you have tried everything possible, but nothing helps, perhaps the reason is not colic. Try placing a heating pad on your baby's tummy, making sure it's not too hot! Give your child dill water or fennel tea.

Carry the baby in your arms, press him with your stomach. Sometimes both gentle rocking and “dancing” can calm a crying baby. Some children find relief from waltzing, while others find relief from marching. Try holding your baby in different positions - vertically, horizontally, belly down. Perhaps you will find exactly the position in which the baby will feel relief.

But remember that the reason a baby cries a month may not only be colic or climatic conditions. If your child is restless and cries frequently, it is best to take him to the doctor. At an appointment with a specialist, you can find out why your infant is crying and make sure that there are no or no diseases.

Why does a newborn cry often?

A newborn baby does not cry the most, but it is the one who is the most difficult to understand. You must always assume that he will not throw a tantrum just like that, and you must establish the reason by conducting a little investigation. Don’t worry, you will very quickly become a real Sherlock Holmes: it has been scientifically proven that ten days after the birth of a child, a mother can recognize from 3 to 6 types of his crying.

Causes of baby anxiety	Signs
I'm hungry/drinking.	These are very loud screams of rage that do not stop when you pick him up. Often he puts his fist in his mouth. The only thing that matters to him now is to eat.
I'm wet.	These screams are not so loud, rather plaintive, but much more annoying.
I'm tired.	The child whines, sobs, it is clear that he is uncomfortable. He wants you to hold him close and comfort him.
I'm in pain.	Sharp, piercing, alarmed screams that do not stop when you take the baby in your arms. Up to three months, we are usually talking about colic associated with the immaturity of the nervous and digestive systems.
I need to unwind.	These cries allow you to get rid of the stress accumulated during the day and are accompanied by increased arousal.
Choice: I'm completely naked. I'm wet. I'm being squeezed. What is this noise?	Whimpering or loud crying, depending on the degree of discomfort.

Should I pick him up right away?

How to choose between the instinctive desire to comfort your child and what the remnants of neurons that survived in the mother’s brain suggest (“no, no, no, we need to wait a little”)?

By answering your child's call, you let him know that you are here and ready to comfort him and help him. If a baby understands that there is someone nearby who can be trusted, he will grow up calm and confident.

Nevertheless, the baby will make great progress in his development if he learns to console himself, finding the strength to calm down. A restrained and compassionate presence is the right attitude for the ideal mother, isn’t it?

Basic needs

One of my friends, an experienced mother, once told me: “The baby only needs to be dry, well-fed and have mom nearby.” Actually, that's true. When a child starts screaming, first of all, look at the clock - when did he eat? Couldn't he be hungry already? In any case, take it in your arms and continue to figure out what's going on.

If you have determined that the reason for the tears is not hunger, check your baby's diaper. Children make it clear when the diaper is full and it’s time to change it.

Be sure to remember these three simple steps when you rush to the aid of a little crybaby. It often happens that she seemed to be feeding an hour ago, and she literally just changed the diaper, but the little one is stuck. Check again - is it dry? It happens that the diaper has slipped and the baby has urinated. And again you will have to change clothes.

When nothing helps

He is crying. As a rule, this happens in the late afternoon. You tried to solve this problem: you changed the baby’s clothes and fed him. You rock him, caress him. Nothing helps. These are classic colic, resulting from the child’s need to get rid of the stress accumulated during the day, from the tension experienced (excitement, fatigue, joy, etc.). Haven’t you ever wanted to release yourself from an excess of emotions?

In such situations, the child’s stress and discomfort become contagious: the mother feels powerless, begins to get nervous, and tension increases. Give your baby time to calm down by leaving him in his room, only coming in occasionally to check if everything is okay. If he continues to cry, you can walk with him from room to room, provided that you yourself remain calm while doing so...

It will also be necessary to come to terms with these passing crises, they are inevitable, and try to experience them with dignity, without aggravating the situation.

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Features of child development at 3 months

By 3 months, children acquire enough skills, and now it has become more interesting to communicate with them. Parents see the emotional response of the baby, which is manifested by the movement of the child’s gaze towards the source of the sound. The baby already understands who is talking to him and carefully follows the interlocutor.

By this age, the main fear of parents - intestinal colic - ends. The microflora of the gastrointestinal tract has matured to a certain state, the number of enzymes has increased significantly, and therefore the digestive processes began to proceed smoothly and painlessly.

Important! If a child becomes capricious at 3 months, the reason should be sought not only among intestinal problems.

Older baby crying

A growing baby may develop new types of crying. As a person develops, his anxieties become more sophisticated. Having dealt with primitive problems (hunger, thirst, sleep, wet diapers), the child moves into the wonderful world of metaphysical concerns: I want to get your attention, I need love...

"Hey, I'm bored!" As soon as a child stops sleeping all day long, he is overcome by a thirst for discovery. Don't leave him in the crib, take advantage of the fact that he is still still and take a lounge chair with him. He will be happy to watch his mother wash the dishes, prepare food, and clean.

Inexpensive and very entertaining toys

A small plastic bottle with a few paper clips, pebbles or dry beans (note: the cap must be screwed on very tightly).
Cardboard tube made from foil.
A well-closed box of cotton swabs.
Plastic bracelets.
A variety of boxes that can be opened and closed.
Cardboard food packaging (baby food is usually decorated with bright, beautiful pictures).

“You don’t allow me to touch what I want - I’ll throw such a tantrum for you now!” Frustration is perhaps one of the most painful feelings that children experience. Parents set boundaries and prohibit them from touching outlets, light bulbs, fragile trinkets, etc. The baby needs to learn to cope with this feeling.

“No, mom, don’t leave me!” Quite quickly, the baby learns the feeling of sadness when seeing you leave. It is generally accepted that by 8 months he discovers “separation anxiety”, in other words, the fear that you will not return again. Of course, everything is individual for each child: some cry as soon as their mother goes into the next room, while others don’t remember her even two days later. In both cases there is no cause for alarm, all this will pass.

How to normalize sleep in infants up to one year old

Newborns do not yet have nightmares, severe stress or emotional overload. It is not for nothing that in most cases, sleep disturbances are now considered a physiological norm. And yet, it is entirely possible for parents to create conditions for their child so that he does not wake up at night. What is important to do?

Establish a clear daily routine. It is advisable that feeding, bathing, periods of sleep and wakefulness take place at the same time. And as experts say, you need to start creating a daily routine literally from the first days of a baby’s life, otherwise it will be more difficult to “implement” a strict routine later.
Create an optimal microclimate in the room where the child sleeps. It is believed that the room should be 18-22 °C and 40-60% humidity. Many parents speak very highly of air humidifiers, which help create an ideal indoor microclimate - not only maintaining the desired level of humidity, but also purifying the air.
Provide your child with optimal sleep conditions. It doesn’t hurt to pay attention to the bedding in the crib - it is advisable that it be made from natural fabrics. The child’s clothing is also important – comfortable and soft, providing ideal thermoregulation. In such a child will not be either hot or cold.
Make sure that the child does not become overtired in the evening hours. Even a baby has busy days. But it is advisable that the child still have “quiet time” before going to bed - no extra guests or active games.

Consult your pediatrician. Let the specialist recommend anti-colic remedies and pain-relieving ointments for the gums that are suitable for the baby. Many doctors recommend swaddling and co-sleeping for sensitive baby sleep.

Both the first and second causes a lot of controversy. There is an opinion that swaddling can inhibit the development of motor functions in a child, cause dysplasia, impair blood circulation in the extremities, or even cause even greater restlessness at night.

Co-sleeping is good for many, but in the future it will be difficult to “move” the baby into a separate room, since he will get used to sleeping with his mother. Weigh the pros and cons

As experienced parents say, this is a difficult time when a child periodically cries in his sleep, you just need to get through it. Everything will pass with age.