Why can’t you assemble the baby’s crib in advance? Yes, and home...

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Expectant mothers often strive to acquire a “dowry” while expecting a baby. The main reason is the lack of time to choose after the birth of the child, the desire to choose the best. And often many parents want to create the most comfortable environment for a new and very important family member.

Many aspects of purchasing important little things are thought out in advance. It is advisable to purchase the most important things for your baby in advance. The crib is no exception. When is the best time to purchase it is discussed in detail in this article.

Why not: the origins of superstitions

Many women are sure that they should not choose and buy clothes, a stroller and other things before the baby is born, but no one can answer why. Grandmothers and mothers say that this is a bad omen, and if you ignore it, complications may arise during childbirth, and the child will have health problems.

Where did these superstitions come from? Previously, children's things were not prepared in advance for the following reasons:

In the past, people believed that clothes bought or sewn for an unborn baby were the gateway to the penetration of evil spirits from the other world, who “settled” in things and did not want to give them up to the child.
In peasant families, the dowry for the first-born was prepared by the expectant mother. She knitted and sewed on her own, staying in the same position for a long time. The lack of walks in the fresh air and overwork affected her health and could provoke deterioration of blood circulation in the pelvic organs and complications of the birth process. However, in ancient times, people associated the occurrence of these problems not with medical, but with supernatural reasons.
Previously, families had many children, and the death of a newborn during childbirth or in the first few days of life was not uncommon. Purchasing new things was economically unjustified.

Is it possible to buy and collect in advance before the birth?

Many mothers during pregnancy, believing in folk signs and superstitions, leave the choice of a crib and many other things for the period after the birth of the child. It is believed that a crib purchased and assembled in advance is a disaster. A ready-made place for the baby is especially painful in the event of a negative birth outcome.

Reference! It is a woman’s mood, her emotional state that largely determines the process of childbirth itself. The expectant mother should focus on positive emotions. The baby should feel needed and desired. Then all negative signs and beliefs will pass by. So you can buy and assemble a crib before giving birth!

Benefits of buying baby clothes in advance

Pragmatic mothers-to-be try to buy things for their children in advance. On the one hand, this is correct:

A woman can calmly pick up things, she has the opportunity to spend maximum time looking for clothes for the baby and not rush into making a choice. The expectant mother will be able to wash, iron and fold the trousseau for later use.
A woman will not have to shift the responsibility for shopping for a child to relatives. There is also a possibility that she simply will not like the baby vests or pacifiers chosen by her loved ones.
Buying expensive things for a newborn (for example, a stroller or crib) in advance is very convenient, because you can distribute the budget and gradually collect the required amount.
Women experience a lot of positive emotions when choosing booties, diapers and other little things for their baby. Shopping not only lifts your mood, but also strengthens your inner connection with your child.

The decision to buy things before the baby is born is reasonable. The mother will enjoy pleasant cares, and after giving birth she will devote all her time to the baby.

Alternative solution

The best option is to find the desired baby bed in the store before giving birth, but not buy it. You can negotiate with the seller and pay the required deposit a few weeks before the baby is born. In this case, you will be sure that until your baby is born, no one will buy the crib you have chosen.

When you give birth to a baby and are in the maternity hospital, your husband or another relative will be able to find a few hours to go to the store, pay the required amount of money and pick up the crib. It will take a few more hours to install this furniture in the room. In any case, in a few days, while you are with the baby in the maternity hospital, this issue can be resolved without problems.

Remember that whether or not to believe various superstitions and so-called “grandmother’s advice” is your choice. The decision of when and what kind of children's furniture to buy is up to you. Or maybe you and your husband are adherents of the theory that a child under three years old should sleep with his parents, since his psychological comfort depends on this? In this case, you shouldn’t buy a crib at all, so as not to throw money away.

In any case, we wish you successful shopping and happy motherhood!

Arguments against such acquisitions

Many expectant mothers can give many convincing arguments why you should not buy things before the baby is born:

when buying children's clothing, you can make a mistake with the size, because it is unknown what the baby's height and weight will be;
during an ultrasound, the doctor cannot always name the sex of the child with a 100% guarantee;
You can ask your relatives to buy some things, because they will still be interested in what to give to the newborn;
a stroller, crib, changing table take up a lot of space - you shouldn’t clutter your apartment with them from the first weeks of pregnancy, it’s better to postpone this purchase;
It’s better to buy things together with your dad - this brings parents closer and teaches a man to be responsible.

In the modern world, there is no need to prepare in advance for the birth of a child - you can order any items while still in the maternity hospital, and the courier will deliver them to the specified address. In addition, a woman can save the family budget if her friends or relatives give her things after their children.

Tips for parents

Helpful tips when choosing a crib:

The choice should be a crib made from environmentally friendly materials.
The best option is a cradle bed, which has a movable mechanism and can be rocked.
It is advisable to consider options with a changing table included.
The bars of the crib must be rounded, and the bottom must be slatted and with a solid lining at the top.
The crib mattress must be purchased according to size.
The crib should have a height-adjustable bottom: for newborns, it is worth fixing the bottom in the highest position. This will be an additional convenience for the mother (it will be easier to put the baby in and out).
The crib model should be chosen based on personal preferences and financial capabilities.

Important! Folk signs do not prohibit buying a crib or stroller in advance. The place just shouldn't be empty. To do this, you can buy a soft doll, dress it in baby clothes and put it in a crib. The doll will “guard” the place for the future resident!

Many parents cannot immediately decide on the best option. Therefore, to save time, nerves and finances, you should contact a specialist consultant.

Future parents should remember: there is no need to listen to someone’s negative moods and unfounded signs. The main thing is the health and positive attitude of the expectant mother and baby.

Useful tips

After giving birth, a woman will not be able to go shopping often, as she will have to devote maximum time to caring for the baby. That is why it is wise to buy some necessary things in advance. When is it appropriate to shop? What does a newborn need first?

What things are advisable to buy in advance?

Certain pieces of furniture and wardrobe need to be purchased in advance. When a woman has free time, she can slowly choose:

A crib, you can immediately buy a mattress and bed linen. Many beds for babies can be disassembled, so you can assemble the furniture before the birth.
Stroller - you can walk outside from the moment the baby is one week old.
Baby bathtub.
Diapers that you should definitely buy for the first time.
A discharge envelope or kit needed to help your baby feel comfortable on his first walk. At home, clothes and diapers should be prepared for the first 2-3 months of the baby’s life.
Hygienic products for child care. You should also have some medications at home, the list of which should be checked with your obstetrician.

Optimal shopping time

Many women, upon learning about pregnancy, immediately begin planning a trip to shopping centers in search of the perfect furniture and necessary things for the baby. In the 1st trimester, the vital organs and systems of the fetus are formed, so the pregnant woman does not need unnecessary worry during this period. When can you start shopping? It is better for a woman to wait 12-13 weeks.

The second trimester is a good time for shopping - a woman feels well, can walk for a long time, comparing models and prices. In addition, parents already know the sex of the child.

If a woman is superstitious and does not want to buy everything she needs in advance before the baby is born, she can only purchase those things that will be needed in the maternity hospital. It is recommended to pack the bag 2 weeks before giving birth. Relatives will have time to prepare furniture and some clothes - if the delivery is favorable, the woman and baby will stay in the hospital for 3-5 days.

The baby should be comfortable and safe

A crib is one of the most necessary things after the birth of a baby. After all, a baby spends most of the day sleeping, and he should feel comfortable, cozy and, most importantly, safe. Therefore, you need to choose such furniture carefully.

Some mothers prefer to do this during pregnancy, arguing that after the birth of the baby they will have neither the strength nor the opportunity to go shopping and do such things. And this argument really plays an important role. Think about it: before giving birth, provided that the woman feels well, she has a lot of free time. Thus, she can calmly devote at least a whole day or a week to this issue - choose a crib, take her time, analyze all the pros and cons. After all, today the furniture market presents many options for such furniture.

And after giving birth, no one can guarantee how the young mother will feel, how much her physical and moral condition will allow her to “run” around the shops and choose the right product. Moreover, often in the postpartum period, a woman is exhausted, irritable, and making such purchases is not very pleasant for her, because her thoughts are always occupied with other issues that directly concern the baby who has been born. If you shift responsibility for this purchase only to your husband or relatives, then most likely the young mother will not be happy with the result. Because it so happens that the decision when buying children's furniture in most cases is made by a woman, since she should be happy with the choice.

Why shouldn't you buy?

Many women and their relatives are categorically determined that it is absolutely forbidden to buy a crib or other things. They say that such unspoken rules existed decades ago, and our grandmothers strictly adhered to them, since no one can predict how the birth will go or whether everything will be fine with the baby. After all, no matter how scary it may sound, in rare cases the fetus freezes in the last stages of pregnancy, or during childbirth the baby is born dead or sick and dies a few days later in the maternity hospital, even if no special health problems arose during pregnancy. In such cases, a pre-purchased children's bed is simply not needed. And upon returning home from the hospital, this furniture will only plunge parents, who are already heartbroken, into an even more shocked state.